Once you become a civil engineer, do you have time to be a wife and mother?

Once you become a civil engineer, do you have time to be a normal wife and mother? In forums I have noticed some engineers discussing how long hours keep them from important family life. Is this in issue in any of your circumstances?
Thank you in advance!! :)
posted by Mary, high school, sydney, Australia on December 29, 2013

Answer 1 by Stephanie E Lewis

Well first of all it is important to think ahead and decided what a "normal wife and mother" means to YOU. There are many women engineers who I am sure work long hours with plenty of overtime, but I would think that most work average full-time hours. I happen to work for a great company and am RARELY asked to work overtime. So in my case, I could be a great wife and mother. No I wouldn't be home with my kids all day, everyday, but that is not how I want my life to be anyway. I want my children to grow up in an environment where it is normal for both parents to work. 

Answer 2 by Colista Freeman

While there are many civil engineers who devote an enormous amount of time to their work, there are many others who seek to strike more of a balance between work and home. If you want to take the more balanced approach, the key is to find an employer who encourages employees to put their families first. Participate in internships and talk to engineers to find out which employer is the right fit for you and your goals. I’m a wife and mother of two little boys, and I work for a fantastic engineering firm that lets me be an engineer AND a mom. I can take time off whenever my kids are sick without feeling guilty. I can also bring my children to the office if I have no other childcare available. They allow me to work from home when I need to do so, and my hours are flexible. A few years ago, I even decided I needed to cut back a little on my work hours to spend more time with my children, and they’ve been very supportive of me. Family-friendly engineering firms are out there.